Speaking to The Local, Trea Tijmens, owner of dating, matchmaking and date coaching service Success Match, says it takes effort to meet the Swiss – and even longer to engage in a trusting relationship.
“If love doesn’t happen instantly, we are disappointed and are out of there,” the dating expert says, emphasizing that investing time pays dividends.
But the reality often hits home during the holidays, when discussing your love life becomes an appetizer at meals with the family.
What can be even more disheartening than seeing your beautiful, professional, well-educated sisterfriend still unattached is seeing a successful Black man settle down with someone of another ethnic group.
When it comes to dating in Switzerland, online forums are full of expats crying out for tips on meeting the ‘reserved’, ‘conservative’ or ‘unapproachable’ Swiss.
Looking for answers, The Local’s Emily Rose Mawson uncovers some quirks of the Swiss dating scene.
“I advise men to pay on a first date,” says ‘flirt coach’ Thomas Peter, who runs how-to courses in flirting in Zurich or by telephone or email.
Swiss people may not be keen on making an effort when they know you are likely to move on in the near future, explains Tijmens.Take German expat Lena*, a leggy blonde: she noticed that since moving to Zurich, she has not been hit on much in bars.“I mainly get approached by Spanish guys,” she admits, adding that she thinks Swiss men must be too arrogant or too scared to speak to women.*names have been changed A version of this article was published in 2016.Stories about the number of Black women who are single have made headlines for years, and many of us are tired of hearing them.“If you are only interested in sex or a one night stand, then the answer is one,” she says.“If you would like to find a nice partner, then I suggest you date long enough to see whether your date has the qualities that you need in order to be fulfilled in a long-term relationship before you become intimate.” Flirt coach Peter agrees, saying that as long as both parties are happy, there is no Swiss-specific rule about whether you sleep together on the first date or after 20.Soon after he started dating a Swiss, Frenchman Martin* realized he was expected to keep his distance.“She would suggest meeting up only every two weeks, even though we didn’t live far from each other,” he says.Though Black men are still twice as likely as Black women to date outside their race, it seems more and more of us are becoming open to dating beyond the color line.It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D.