What makes it so destructive is that it’s not an overwhelming, gripping fear; it’s a vague feeling of unease.
It’s so quiet and subtle you may not even realize it’s there.
This usually occurs at the point where the woman could no longer keep the act up.
Maybe she’s trying to appear cool and go-with-the-flow, but in her mind she’s already thinking of ways to turn a relationship that’s really nothing at this point into something.
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Guys typically don’t operate this way in relationships and he can’t fully understand what happened to turn this seemingly happy, cool girl into an unpleasant, emotionally-reactive, reassurance-seeking mess.
All anyone really wants is to feel OK, and most of us don’t.
When a woman worries and needs constant reassurance, it comes from a feeling of, “I am not OK” and the feeling beneath that is fear.
Numbers are exchanged, flirty texting ensues, and eventually you go on a date … The chemistry is strong, you connect, you have fun. Now you start to get really excited…could this be it?
It starts out light and fun, it’s about connecting and enjoying each other’s company.
After a few great dates with a seemingly great guy, most women can’t help but get excited about the possibilities.
Maybe he was too desperate, not intellectually stimulating, too quiet, too loud, too boring, too boisterous–she usually knows exactly what it is that turned her off and can give a reason as to why she doesn’t want to continue dating him if asked.
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