The bottom line is that you don’t have to worry about saying the right things or playing the dating game.
Your picker, if well-tuned, will always give you the love match you most desire.
Isn’t that much easier than wondering if you should wait three days to call him?
Dear Jen, I'm constantly attracting guys who are really screwed up.
Ray sold me a turd of a car, and even though he is a giant sucking thing, it's my own dumb fault.
When your puzzle piece shifts, you will see that the men or women you meet will start to change as well.I knew in my gut that I was getting into something sketchy, but I did it anyway because you should've seen how sexy that car looked with the top down. Next time you're attracted to someone, what's say you don't leap into a relationship with him?I'd like to let you pretend that you're as clueless as you say you are when it comes to your mental ward-full of exes, but I can't. Instead, listen carefully to what he says, move slowly, pay attention to the fact that his eyes look like plate glass windows when he comes back from the bathroom and don't pretend that he's uncontrollably sobbing just because he feels comfortable opening up to you.You may not have known that you can change it before today, but here is how: 1. Look for common themes in your relationships and figure out where the patterns have their roots. Your dreams are a treasury of insight and information to guide you on your journey to a fulfilling relationship. Work with your subconscious mind by visualizing and facing the part of you that acts as the picker. Hire a coach that specializes in subconscious work.Try to identify the underlying fear you likely have of actually getting close to someone. They speak to you in symbolic language so you need to journal about them and follow your inner guidance. Ask yourself questions and trust the answers that come to you. This is the fastest way to get yourself aligned with love.Before you even spoke to this man, your mate selection mechanism was set on heartache.But the good news is, you can change your “Love Picker” and turn on your “Love Switch.” Why do we pick the wrong people?There are a few ways to change your “Love Picker.” In fact, your subconscious mind is always giving you clues on how to change it.It keeps bringing you heartache so that you can finally make an adjustment.Because you know, and you know you know, you just don't want to admit it because you should've seen how sexy he looked in those jeans. Your Brain: That's only because you haven't gotten a piece of me yet. Once you start watching and listening to what's really going on, you can avoid getting involved with the ones who aren't worth your time and move forward with the ones who are. I have a theory that people tell you everything you need to know the first week you meet them. They just can't help but puke up their little confessional hairballs right there on the candle-lit table, and, if you're the kind of person who keeps finding yourself in rotten relationships, you can't help but fill in the blanks with a story that suits your needs.