So if you can’t bring yourself to deny the deity, consider opening yourself up to a whole wacky bunch of them.But ideally you should just disbelieve the whole thing. ———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.After all, most people’s profiles don’t exactly give you a ton of material to work with, do they? Ask yourself if what you’re writing sounds completely original. We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.It can help your love life, and, besides, if there really was a god, wouldn’t first messages Though this post talks in detail about the content of people’s messages on Ok Cupid, all messages have been anonymized, with sender and recipient data and all IP and timestamp information stripped out.In addition, our analysis program looked at messages only two or three words at a time, to track the success of certain words or phrases (like “what’s up” vs. The program then aggregated results by phrase before presenting the data.
A lot of real-world dating advice tells men to be more confident, but apparently hemming and hawing a little works well online.The result: a set of rules for what you should and shouldn’t say when introducing yourself. Let’s go: Netspeak, bad grammar, and bad spelling are huge turn-offs.Our negative correlation list is a fool’s lexicon: was also a successful word, but much less so (33%).Maybe they set a more casual tone that people prefer, though I have to say, You had me at ‘what’s up’ doesn’t quite have the same ring to it.There are many words on the effective end of our list like (double yes!It’s a joke and, as we all know, people like people who make them laugh. I can fix your computer, landscape your backyard and probably even hotwire your car, but, for some reason, Ti Vo programming seems to elude me as well. Playing it safe is fine, but if an attractive person has dozens, if not hundreds, of options, you need to shake things up a little bit to break through the clutter. Interesting piece, which I’ll have to parse at length when I have the time…but it leads me to throw out a theory I’ve been kicking around.So if you’re interested in watching the entire season of “When Animals Attack”… You say correctly that humor is subjective and that people like funny and original.As we all know, people normally like compliments, but when they’re used as pick-up lines, before you’ve even met in person, they inevitably feel…ew.Besides, when you tell a woman she’s beautiful, chances are you’re not.But I’ve come to believe that men, specifically, say they want funny and original. But I wonder if there’s anything more to it than my own personal experience.But when it comes to acting on that statement, most of them don’t. In fact, I think I’m posting this on JDaters Anonymous.