Both Miriam Grunbaum and her husband are the children of German-Jewish immigrants.After World War II, her parents went to the United States; his, to Palestine.For what it’s worth, the research indicates women are looking for “man-like” behavior early in dating.Get The Start-Up Israel's Daily Start-Up by email and never miss our top stories Free Sign Up The research is not definitive.To come to Israel as a single woman and find your Israeli Prince Charming would appear — at first glance — to be the ideal way to integrate into Israeli society.Not only do you have a husband who speaks the language and who knows his way around the country, you also have his family, whose presence should help to smooth the process of adjustment. The reality, as conversations with more than 20 American women married to Israelis reveal, is different.It points to tendencies among members of a specific group — university students — and the results are possible trends, not absolute predictors.In the small, limited series of studies, single men tended to prefer single women who were more responsive to their needs and wishes in an initial conversation, finding them more feminine.
"He feels that liberalism is a luxury that Israel cannot yet afford.
Kellman says she is being forced to examine what it means to be Jewish in a Jewish state, "especially when you are not Orthodox." Her husband laughs at her when she lights Shabbat candles on Friday night or uses special dishes for Passover.
"For him, there is an all-or-nothing element to religion," says Kellman.
"The synagogue he doesn't attend is an Orthodox one." Laurel Avissar, a dental assistant who has been in Israel for eight years and married for three of them, says marriage to an Israeli provides "an inside look at Israeli society — good and bad." As a single woman, she was unaware of the strength and intensity of family ties in many Israeli households. "My in-laws are not the only ones who expect their married children to grace their table every Friday night or, failing that, to visit on Saturday," says Avissar.
In contrast to her own parents' philosophy of "live and let live," Avissar's in-laws involve themselves in all aspects of her married life.